DEAR ABBY: My spouse and I’ve been married 30 years. Over the ultimate couple of years, a male pal of ours (additionally married) has taken an hobby in my spouse. He clearly unearths her sexy, as maximum males do, however I’m attempting to determine what his intentions are.
He feedback to me about her and her frame, so if he’s seeking to disguise his weigh down on her, he’s now not doing an excellent task. I do know my spouse unearths him sexy too, even if after I point out his identify, she shrugs it off and says they’re simply buddies. He has a nice-looking spouse and seems to be a loyal husband and father to his grown youngsters.
I do know my spouse loves me, however his customery feedback are inflicting me worry. I don’t at all times display my spouse the eye she merits, so will have to I step up my recreation to steer clear of any individual else doing it? Will have to I be frightened that this guy’s intentions are greater than “just friendly” and discuss up? — SUSPICIOUS IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR SUSPICIOUS: You have got the proper to inform this pal his feedback about your spouse’s frame are beside the point and you need them cancelled. You even have the proper to develop into a extra attentive husband. I’m positive your spouse would respect it. I do now not assume it’s important to invite this guy if his “intentions are more than just friendly.” You weren’t born the day gone by, and the solution is sure.
DEAR ABBY: I were given out of rehab two months in the past. Occasion I used to be there, I met any individual. “Annie” lives in Florida, and I reside in California. We each are doing superior, and I imagine we construct each and every alternative more potent.
Do you assume a long-distance dating can paintings? I listen it’s now not imaginable. She has lately divorced, and so have I. Annie has two youngsters, 15 and 16, and because of this, she will’t release Florida. I’ve two children as smartly, 11 and 16, and will’t release my climate for a similar reason why. However our youngsters will advance to school in a couple of years, and I in reality take care of her.
I know the way dry it’s to search out any individual. Over the ultimate 3 years, I’ve dated 20 ladies. None of them is someone I want to be in a dating with. Annie is very best for me. I stated we will have to remove it one presen at a pace. She has flown out right here two times to look me, and I’m committing to fly to look her upcoming. I do know this dating has its demanding situations. Society inform me that anything else is imaginable and that I will have to see the place it takes us. — HOPEFUL IN THE DESERT
DEAR HOPEFUL: In 3 years, Annie’s more youthful kid will likely be 18. Will her youngsters be off to school? It’s going to be seven years ahead of your more youthful kid is thought of as an grownup. Would Annie be capable of advance to California when she’s not certain through a custody promise?
I occur to trust the oldsters who let you know that anything else is imaginable. It’s the reality — so long as you and Annie are ready for a long-distance dating within the coming years. You each have your sobriety that must be maintained, youngsters who want help and relationships with exes that can or is probably not problematic. For the foreseeable presen, you and Annie will have to comply with retain your choices observable and now not not include relationship others. If you’re intended to be in combination, it’s going to occur.
Pricey Abby is written through Abigail Van Buren, often referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and used to be based through her mom, Pauline Phillips. Touch Pricey Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
