DEAR ABBY: A age in the past, I met a lovely guy on a cruise. We accident it off fabulously, and because we are living 1,000 miles aside, we keep involved basically via telephone — speaking and video chatting.
He has come to seek advice from me 4 occasions within the life age, and we have now taken two journeys in combination. He has met my buddies and neighbors and has spoken to my public at the telephone (they reside in a unique shape than I do). He says he loves me and that I’m the lady he’s appeared for his complete moment.
The disease is, I’ve by no means been invited to seek advice from him. Once I requested why, he advised me his daughters, who’re of their 20s and reside at house, in addition to his siblings are adversarial to him relationship and wish him to reunite together with his ex. (He has been divorced for 3 years.)
This is relating to plenty, however I’ve by no means spoken to any of his buddies at the telephone, both.
One thing smells fishy. It appears like both I’m not anything greater than a “side piece,” or possibly he’s abashment of me and doesn’t need me to fulfill or communicate to any individual he is aware of. Or possibly he’s now not divorced then all.
I don’t need to misspend treasured presen on one thing that isn’t taking to exit anyplace. Are my expectancies too superb, or am I an fool for permitting this to exit on so long as I’ve? — FEELING FOOLISH IN FLORIDA
DEAR FEELING FOOLISH: I don’t blame you for worrying. If, then a age of being “courted,” you continue to haven’t been offered to this excellent guy’s buddies or public, one thing doesn’t upload up.
Both the person is spineless, or he hasn’t been in advance with you about his cases.
If you’ll’t persuade him to get up up for himself and form cloudless to his kin that he has went away from his judicial separation — AND you’ll regulate your feelings — pay him a amaze seek advice from.
If he has been stringing you alongside, he merits to be outed.
DEAR ABBY: I grew up needful. On account of that, I spoiled my daughter rotten. I gave her the whole thing, however it has backfired.
When she grew to become 16, my husband and I purchased her a brand-new $70,000 BMW. I advised him I didn’t need my daughter to be with out the rest like I used to be.
She didn’t need the $70,000 BMW; she sought after the $100,000 one. My husband mentioned it was once past his price range.
When my daughter gained her automobile, she wasn’t satisfied. She kicked the auto and dented it as it wasn’t the only she sought after.
My husband took it to a frame store and paid to have it mounted. She says that once it will get out of the frame store, she’s going to kick it once more and later it’s going to be even worse.
I do know what you assume I will have to do. But when I whip it away and abjure her, she’s going to loose out of school, and her moment might be ruined.
I do know that I’m 100% within the unsuitable. I simply want aid, and confidently, you’re going to have a solution this is other than everybody else’s. Please aid me with every other recommendation. — AT MY WITS’ END
DEAR AT MY WITS’: Cheerfully! When your ungrateful daughter once more damages the auto you so generously gave her, don’t healing it.
Rather, let her pressure it “as is” and let her revel in the aftereffects of what she has carried out.
When you do, you’re going to be giving her a present way more significance than the cost of the car. Higher overdue than by no means.
Expensive Abby is written via Abigail Van Buren, often referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was once based via her mom, Pauline Phillips. Touch Expensive Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
